I just dont know what to do anymore. i am so alone. i want a best friend who i can talk to. but my dad wont let me have any friends. i resent him so much, he takes everyone away from me. he is arrogant and always considers my friends shallow because they don't have good taste in movies or whatever. he once got furious at me because i wanted him to drop me off at the mall with a friend, and he wanted us to go to the museum instead. wtf? im 14!!! i should be allowed to do what i want with my friends! not that i hate museums , in fact i would have loved to do that. but he didn't have to embarras me in front of my friend who understandably thought it would be weird to go to an art museum with her friend and her friends weird a** family and annoying dad!!!! my dad literaly is so strict, he has to know everything about my friends. "do they cuss? do they like to read? what kind of music do they listen to? what are their parents like? maybe you can invite them over and we can watch some documentaries." UGGHH. i know i probably sound like some spoiled brat or something, but my dad is seriously crazy! he controlls every aspect of my social life to the point where my friends are actually creeped out by him. im not allowed to do anything or go anywhere. im not allowed to have my own tastes either. he says he failed with me and that i have shallow tastes. he thinks im stupid. he hits me too, but hes never left a mark. i honestly want to just get out of the house and never see him again. does anybody understand? is there anyone out there like me? cause i feel like im completely alone. please help someone, i want someone to talk to. #lonliness #parents #teen #help #deppression #alone #resentment
- 07/6/16 -- 12:22am
Hey there. I'm a 14 year old girl too. Neither of my parents act that way, but I can understand how you feel. That must be really embarrassing! You must feel as though he is treating you as if you are a young child. I think you should have a talk to him about it. Tell him that you are grown up and that you don't need him to put these many restraints on you anymore. Honestly, I think he likes the power or something, based on how controlling you paint him to be. But, maybe he's just doing this based on his own past experiences! Maybe one of his old friends as a kid was a crazy potato hoarder that made him eat moldy potatoes and run around naked! I don't know, and neither do you. So...try not to freak out at him and act like you are smarter than him. Don't flip out and yell, or else he will get mad and yell back. Just present your case in a calm and authoritative manner, and see how it goes. If it doesn't :)go right, then just make it a little joke with your friends, that you have a crazy Dad. My Dad is a bit strange too, so I just joke around with my friends a little bit before they see him for the first time. But don't worry. All will be well:)
Good luck though!